However, due to traffic jam after a light shower, the meeting was delayed and it finished later than expected. So when we arrived back at the carpark the gate was locked and we called the gate-keeper through the cellphone to allow our friend to take his car out.
To our surprise, he refused to oblige eventhough a plea was made. Though the house rules did mention that the gate will be under key and lock after certain hours was acceptable due to security reasons but what we could not comprehend was his reluctance to look into our plea in a constructive way especially we are known to him.
In the end there was no other choice and our friend who stays about 30km away had to spend a night at one of our friend's house unprepared for work the following day. Where is the compassion and kindness these days.
21 Aug 2008
Hi friend, hope to see more of your posting.
ReplyDeleteI have link you to my blog, hope you dont mind. :):)
Happy blogging!
Hi Christy
ReplyDeleteI would love to know you more in your profile. :)
Blessings
tq
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ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your first posting, Christy. Keep it going with lots of images.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is the gate-kepper could be under strict instruction not to oblige to open the gate for anyone after 11.00 pm.
ReplyDeleteBe that as it may, the guy should have use his discretion, if he has any at all, of course.
Well, to err is human, to forgive is divine.
What did that incident tell us? Can we learn from that incident?
or would it serve as a dampener?
Great, I bear witness to the incident.
Continuento keep the blog alive with real life situations.
Hello Bill
ReplyDeleteNice to hear from you. As a gate-keeper he should be more prudent and exercise what is deemed fit for that particular situation.
He has lost his motivation and he needs a change.
Have a wonderful weekend.
Merdeka! Merdeka! Merdeka!
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congrats! Look forward to the next posting. Keep it up!
ReplyDeleteAgreed that the guard should have use his discretion - sad when a human being loses it. I have met a lot of individuals like these, executing their duties like robots and lacking discretion and human compassion.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteFirst time reading your blog. I find your reaction and feeling towards the gate-keeper in the incident very familiar as I had many personal experiences of this sort in the past.
When one finds oneself in a difficult spot an appeal is made to the good sense of another for help. No doubt good reasons are given to suport the unusual request,i.e to bend the rule in order that the problem be solved for us.
When turned down, we quickly put it down as 'lacking in understanding and compassion.'
Well instead thinking of our own righteousness and feeling how about reflecting on the other side of the coin. So as to understand and be compassionate towards him.
Let's look at the probable reasons for gate keeper's the response:
1.TO HAVE COMPASSION IS TO FEEL THE PAIN AND SUFERING OF THE OTHER. Obviously, he did not feel the suffering, he understood there are some inconveniences which could be overcome. (eg. sleeping overnight at a friends or taking a cab home)
2. He is given rules and regulations to carry out his duty. Is he authorised to change them as he sees fit or had he got into trouble in the past for doing so? Could it be that he is fearful of losing his job?? He may have a young family to feed and morgages to pay!!! etc.etc...
3. He maybe just dumb, lacking in common sense, lazy or arrogant. Maybe all of the above.
If 1. 2. 3. be the case.. we can understand him. As Christians we are to be compassionate as Christ is compassionate. Pray for him.
Judy